Unconditional Love of Self means that you love yourself without conditions.
It means that you accept yourself as you are, right now, today, exactly as you are, where you are; warts and all.
You accept yourself at the weight you are today.
You accept yourself in the relationship you're in today.
You accept yourself at the job you have today,
making the amount of money that you make today,
looking the way that you look today,
acting the way that you act today,
having done the 'bad' things that you've done.
You accept yourself, feeling as crappy as you feel.
You accept yourself and love yourself, despite of and because of the bad things that you've done; in spite of and because of the guilt that you carry.
You love yourself more, because of the pain that you've been through.
You love yourself more because of the shame that you carry.
Why Should I Love Myself?
What we need to understand about Unconditional Love for the Self is that IT is one of the most transformational keys that we have.
Once you can master Unconditional Love for yourself, you can change every single part of your life.
It changes how you see everything.
It changes your perspective on every other thing that happens in your life.
It will change your outlook on your job.
It will change your outlook on your purpose.
It will change your outlook on how you look.
It will change your outlook on your relationship.
It will change everything when you change how you see yourself, because really you're not the one who is changing.
What do you MEAN
'I'm not the one Changing?'
Don't I have to CHANGE to love myself?
All you're changing is how you see yourself.
All you're changing is your perspective.
All you're doing is saying
‘You know what it's okay that I'm not perfect-
it's okay that I'm 30 pounds overweight
-it's okay that I'm in a bad relationship and I am not ready to leave yet- it's okay that my job doesn't value me -I'll figure it out-
it's okay that I haven't forgiven that person who hurt me back then -
it's okay that I stole that thing’
Why is it okay that you did bad things?
Why is it okay that those people hurt you and you haven't forgiven them?
Because once you accept yourself where you are now, once you accept yourself, despite the bad things you’ve done, despite not forgiving others, now you can work on those issues.
Now you can go back to those moments of pain that you are holding onto and you can look at them without judging yourself. You can say to yourself:
-- I didn't forgive that person for hurting me in 10th Grade--
--oh my God all these years I've been holding on to that, you know what? I forgive you--
--that was stupid, I shouldn't be holding on to that anymore--
--wow, now i see that anytime somebody says something to me, I get just as mad at them as I got at you back when I was 15 years old--
-- but I'm not 15 years old now--
--now I’m 20-- now I'm 30-- now I’m 40-- now I’m 50
--now I’m grown--
-- I don't need to be acting like a teenager at work because somebody called me a name --
--I'm grown now--
When you accept yourself unconditionally, faults and all, it makes it so much easier to start working on these things within yourself.
This is part 4 of a series of excerpt from Simple Spirituality of Self e-book channeled by me during my Awakening
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