Self Awareness is the key to personal growth. Taking a close look at ourselves, not with judgement, but rather with an objective eye, can be the difference between true growth and 'intellectual' growth. True growth comes from tapping into our emotions. Intellectual growth comes from knowledge gained, but not applied.
As you read through the next sections, we’ll be addressing some of the emotions that can block your connection with that Divine Unconditional Love that is inside of you all the time.
We'll go over each emotion and we'll figure out how to untangle the conditioning that is stopping you from truly loving yourself.
How did each emotion get you to this point and how can you love yourself through it?
How can you reconnect with yourself through that ‘destructive’ emotion to love yourself through it and to release that emotion?
We will be working through the emotions one by one.
Each emotion will help you to dig out those roots, rip down those vines, and cleaning off those little spots.
You are Divine and to love yourself unconditionally, you must love every one of those little spots on your Divine Spirit, even as we wash it away. You must love and embrace those emotions in you that hurt, that bleed, that turn you inside out.
When you begin to love and accept the parts of you that hurt the most, the healing begins immediately. You will begin the journey to loving yourself unconditionally and unlocking the key to the divinity within you.
What Technique Will We Be Using to tap into Self Love?
Before we get into the actual emotions, I want to teach you the technique that we're going to use to undo this.
We’re going to call each one of these emotions a Root, and then we will call the complications that come from the emotions, Vines.
So the Root would be where this emotion starts.
In each one of these different emotions, guilt, anger, pain; each one of those emotions has a root in a traumatic episode that happened to us, and often it will trace all the way back to our childhood. Often it traces back to something that happened to us when we are a kid. Many times, it isn't even something we remember. It could have been an overheard conversation or misinterpretation in our young little brains.
This may sound strange.
This may sound completely illogical, but bear with me here.
I'm going to use a random example.
You are a person who, your entire life, you have felt like nobody listens to you.
You're in school raising your hand the teacher doesn't call on you.
You go to college; you want the professor to listen to you; nobody listens to you.
In your group of friends, nobody listens to you.
You get married; you ask your husband to take out the garbage; he doesn't do it.
You ask your kids to do your chores; they don't listen to you.
You speak up at a meeting; nobody pays attention to you.
Your entire life, you keep feeling like nobody's listening to you; nobody ever hears you.
Nobody pays attention to what you're saying;
Nobody ever listens to you.
You walk around constantly saying and constantly thinking---
“Why do I bother saying anything? Nobody ever listens to me. Nobody cares what I have to say.’"
This is the thought that goes through your head all the time.
In fact, you often preface what you're about to say with ‘I don't know why I bother speaking; nobody ever listens to me.’
Once we recognize that pattern in our life of feeling unheard, that pattern in our life where we constantly feel like nobody's listening to us; once we can identify that as a strong emotion that comes up in our life over and over and over again, now the real work begins.
Now, we recognize that's a Vine in our life. It’s a vine that creeps into so many different areas of daily living, but all of those vines come from a single Root.
We want to follow that vine back to its root.
We want to keep following that vine backwards in our life.
How can Looking at the Past Help my Self Growth?
Now, let me just acknowledge something here before we go any further. There are people who will tell you don't look at the past.
I disagree with that 100% and here's why.
All-time happens, all the time.
All-time happens, all the time.
That means that if something in the past caused you pain, it is still causing you pain, right now.
If somebody in the past called you a nasty name and it hurt your feelings, when somebody in the present now calls you a nasty name, it still hurts your feelings the same way it did in the past.
In fact, it may hurt your feelings even more now, than it hurt you in the past. Because you're still carrying that pain from the past, your pain in the present will be magnified.
So, because all time happens all the time, when something happens in the present that triggers a memory from the past, your pain in the present is now amplified and magnified by that pain from the past.
So, all your pain is happening all the time.
So, if all time is happening all the time, then that means that you can go back and time travel in your mind.
You can heal the thing that happened in the past and it will affect the way you feel in the present.
We're going to take that vine, the one that represents you not feeling listened to, and we're going to trace it back backwards in time.
We're going to time travel.
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