So what am I saying?
I’m saying that forgiveness of those who hurt us is the way to heal ourselves.
The way that we forgive people who don't ‘deserve’ it, is to understand that whatever they did, it may have been done to you but it wasn't done because of you. It was done because of them, their issues and their pain.
They lashed out because they don't know any better, because they're in so much pain, lashing out is the only way they know to process their pain.
I want you to imagine for just a moment...
How much pain does a person have to be in to beat a child?
How much pain does a person have to be to hurt a child?
How much pain does a person have to be in to take somebody's life?
How much trauma does a person have to live through to think it's okay to touch someone that way?
What do you think that person went through as a child themselves?
How much of their own power do you think was taken when they were child to then think it's okay to do that to somebody else? To then feel like they only way for them to have power is to do it to somebody else?
By understanding their Journey and having that empathy, you can forgive. Forgiving them is not saying what they did is OK.
It’s not condoning what was done.
It's just understanding that they're in pain.
They lashed out in pain.
They do what they do, and they did what they did, because they're in pain. What they did had nothing to do with you, even if it was done to you, no matter how badly you were broken.
Forgiving them will heal you, because that healing is your journey.
Their pain, their suffering and their lashing out is their journey.
They have to live with that choice.
Your forgiveness of what you went through, your forgiveness, your healing, that's your journey, that's what you need to do in this life.
That's what your Divinity is crying out for.
That's what your Divinity is searching for.
It doesn't matter if it was someone who abused you or if it was just someone who treated you badly; if it was a marriage that went bad or if it was little kids that teased you or if you were bullied.
Your pain is your pain and if it broke you and it hurts you then it is important. If it blocks you from Divinity it is important.
You need to go back to that place and you look at that person in your mind.
All the time happens, all the time.
All the time happens, all the time, so if it still hurts you today that those little kids looked at you and laughed at you and pointed at you on the playground, then it’s still something that is important; then it’s still something that you need to work on.
All the time happens all the time and if it still hurts you, then it's still happening today.
If you can close your eyes and still see those little kids throwing rocks at you then it is still happening.
You need to go back to that playground.
You need to look at those little kids and you need to say to them--
‘I forgive you. I understand that you're throwing rocks at me because, maybe you get teased at home, maybe your big brother pushes you down on the bed, maybe your mom and dad ignore you at home and I forgive you’
Then you walk up to everyone of those kids and you give them hugs.
Then you turn around and you give your little self a hug.
Say to yourself--
‘You're not an outcast. You are wonderful. You are beautiful. You are Divine.’
You give yourself a big, big hug.
What's the Most Important Part of Forgiveness?
Here's the third part. Now a lot of people don't know that there is a third part to this kind of forgiveness and they will miss it. I feel that this is the most important part of the process.
You turn to your grown self and you say---
‘I forgive you for believing the garbage these people said to you, because you've been carrying this pain around since you were 7 years old.
I forgive you for carrying this garbage.
I forgive you for carrying this baggage around with you.
We're leaving it right here.
We're leaving it right here because this is not a part of our life anymore. We forgive them. We forgive ourselves.
We are important. We matter. We are Divine.’
You give yourself a hug. You love yourself unconditionally.
You forgive yourself for believing all that garbage.
Why do we carry around the stuff with us?
It is not necessary in our daily lives to get hit by stones thrown by 7 year olds all day long.
It is not necessary to re-live the painful parts of our past over and over. It's in the background like a movie, running all the time, in the background of your daily life.
You will be at work and somebody will say some off-handed comment, just a little a little dig, nothing major, like a joke.
Rather than take it as a joke, we take it to heart.
We take it to that place where we're standing on the playground and people are throwing rocks at us, telling us what a loser we are.
We react on a 10 to something that was meant to be a joke and it's not necessary. It's not necessary to carry these things anymore.
Do you see how these things from our past will affect our daily life?
We don’t even realize it if we aren’t paying attention.
It's all connected.
This is part 13 of a series of excerpt from Simple Spirituality of Self e-book channeled by me during my Awakening
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