Time travel seems like something straight out of science fiction. Walking through a shimmering portal, driving a DeLorean 88 miles an hour...we have very set ideas about what time travel looks like. And yet, each of us travels through time every day. Each time we have a memory that creates a feeling in us, we are traveling through time.
There are people who will tell you don't look at the past.
‘The past is over. You can't learn anything from the past. The past is over. Going back there just makes you feel bad again. You can't get anything from that. There's no point looking backwards.’
I disagree with that 100% and here's why.
All-time happens, all the time.
All-time happens, all the time.
That means that if something in the past caused you pain, it is still causing you pain, right now.
If somebody in the past called you a nasty name and it hurt your feelings, when somebody in the present now calls you a nasty name, it still hurts your feelings the same way it did in the past.
In fact, it may hurt your feelings even more now, than it hurt you in the past. Because you're still carrying that pain from the past, your pain in the present will be magnified.
So, because all time happens all the time, when something happens in the present that triggers a memory from the past, your pain in the present is now amplified and magnified by that pain from the past. So, all your pain is happening all the time.
So, if all time is happening all the time, then that means that you can go back and time travel in your mind.
You can heal the thing that happened in the past and it will affect the way you feel in the present.
Once we recognize that patterns in our life, like we spoke of in the last section of feeling unheard, that pattern in our life where we constantly feel like nobody's listening to us; once we can identify that as a strong emotion that comes up in our life over and over and over again, now the real work begins.
Now, we recognize that's a Vine in our life. It’s a vine that creeps into so many different areas of daily living, but all of those vines come from a single root. We want to follow that vine back to its root. We want to keep following that vine backwards in our life.
We're going to take that vine, the one that represents you not feeling listened to, and we're going to trace it back backwards in time.
We're going to time travel.
How Does Time Travel Help me Heal?
You're going to use that vine like a rope to pull you backwards in time, event to event to event. We are going to travel backwards through time, towards all of the times that you didn't feel listened to; all the times you felt unheard.
Keep going backwards through time.
Just let one memory lead you to another and lead you to another and lead you to another.
If you get upset about it, it's okay. It's okay to feel upset. Make a note of it every time you're feeling a little bit upset about going through one of these experiences.
Don’t misunderstand me, I'm not saying to re-live them. We're looking at them from the outside, looking in. You’re looking at it as an observer. I don't want you to collapse yourself into the emotion.
This might be easier said than done, so I’m going to give you a little coping mechanism. If, as you travel backwards through time, you find yourself getting caught up in the emotions, being overwhelmed by the feelings and experiences you are going back to, as you feel them, yes allow yourself to cry, but as you do, repeat to yourself
‘Thank you for this opportunity to heal. Thank you, I love you. I’m sorry. Forgive me.’
Many, many people far wiser and smarter than me have used these phrases to heal!
We're going to follow that vine hand-over-hand back through time, rewinding your life like a TV show, back as far back as you can remember.
Now, this example might take you all the way back to the dinner table, when you're five years old. You're sitting at the dinner table and you're saying ‘I want to talk about my day’
Somebody at the table tells you ‘Be quiet. Nobody wants to hear what you have to say. Children are seen and not heard. Nobody cares what you have to say.’
We have a winner!!
That is a memory worth healing.
That is a memory that caused a wound in you, because right there, you were told that what you had to say wasn't worth listening to.
At that moment as a child, because we don't understand as children how to process that, we take it as absolute truth. That tiny piece of memory becomes a piece of our core truth-
’What I have to say isn't worth listening to.’
In that moment, that feeling becomes our ‘reality.’
We then play out that ‘reality’ for the rest of our lives.
We form core beliefs about ourselves based on this ‘reality.’
The universe surrounds us with people who prove out that belief that we have that we aren't worth listening to… All because someone made a comment to you at the dinner table when you were just a little kid--and now all these years later that root has grown vines that infect your whole life…
Here's how we heal that using the time-travel method. You're going to do this all in your mind, so it may feel a little strange at first. Know that this way of time travel can help you if you put your heart and energy into it. You may need to do it repeatedly, over and over, to get the forgiveness to stick, but eventually you will feel the difference. You will feel healed. You will feel transformed.
Here's the Answer- How do I Heal with Time Travel?
First thing you're going to do once you travel back in time to that dinner table, you're going to sit down right next to your little self.
1. You're going to turn to yourself and you're going to say to your little self ‘You know what? I'll listen to you. You tell me whatever you want to tell me. What you have to say is so important! I love you and I want to hear exactly what you have to say.’
Then you listen to whatever your little tiny self has to say and you give your little self a hug.
Next you say ‘That was fascinating. You are so interesting and the things you had to say are so important. Don't ever forget that.’ And you give yourself a hug.
2. Next, you're going to turn around to that person or those people who said that to you and you're going to give every one of them a hug and you're going to tell them ‘You know what? I forgive you for saying that to me. You didn't know what kind of damage you were doing at the time. You didn't understand how that was going to affect me and I love you. I love you. You weren't trying to hurt me. Even if you were trying to hurt me, you were lashing out of your own pain and I understand that. Pain is pain. I get it.’
You give each one of them a hug in your mind.
This part is the secret- not many people will tell you about this part-this is the secret sauce-
3. You turn to yourself, your grown self, who's going around hugging everyone, and you give yourself some of that empathy and love.
You say to yourself ‘I forgive you for believing this garbage you have been believing for so long about what you have to say is not important. I forgive you for believing that nobody should listen to you. I forgive you for believing this BS for the last 20 -30 -40 -50 -60 years.’
You give yourself a hug and you say ‘I love you-- insert name here --I love you. What you have to say is important and I am listening to you.’ You put your arms around yourself and you give yourself a big hug.
Then you take out a trowel or a little shovel and you yank that root out. You dig that root right out.
You give it a big old kiss and you throw it away.
You get rid of it, because now that you found the root of that belief, you don't need it anymore. It's not serving you anymore.
Now, when you bring yourself back to the present, you're going to feel differently. People are going to notice and the universe is going to bring you a different reality.
The universe was bringing you exactly what you believed.
You believed that what you had to say wasn't worth listening to, so to that end, nobody listened to you. Now that you believe you are worth listening to, people will listen to you.
You might have to go back and do it a few times. Those roots can be wiley.
They are gnarly.
The vines can grow back over and over again. You have got to get every little bit of that root out, or the vine keeps growing back. But once you get it all out, it's done. Once you learn that lesson, you won't be repeating it again and again and again and again.
Are you ready?
We're going to apply this to every single one of these emotions. For every single one of these emotions that we explore, we're going to apply this exact same technique.
You're going to grab hold of that vine and you're going to follow it all the way back to the root.
You're going to figure out where it came from and you're going to love the hell out of that thing.
You're going to love the little kid that was injured.
You're going to love the person that injured you and you’re going to love yourself.
You're going to forgive yourself.
Because this is about the Simple Spirituality of Self and how you can learn to love yourself unconditionally. The way to do this is to forgive yourself for carrying all this junk around with you for your whole lifetime to let go of the baggage and start truly living a happy life.
This is part 10 of a series of excerpt from Simple Spirituality of Self e-book channeled by me during my Awakening
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