****Trigger warning**** We are talking about misdirected Guilt and shame.
Another thing that we will do in this cycle, is we will carry the blame for something that was done TO us. We will carry the blame for what was done TO us. We blame ourselves. It’s illogical, but we are so good at it. That person abused me, because I did something wrong. It's my fault. It's my fault that my mother hates me, because I'm obviously a horrible person. It's my fault that that person molested me, because I must have done something. I wanted to sit on his lap because I liked feeling special. I wanted my uncle to think I was special so I like sitting on his lap. It must be my fault. We carry that guilt with us. We carry it with us and we harbor that shame within ourselves. Because we are carrying and harboring and hiding pieces of blame, guilt and shame within ourselves, we perpetuate the cycle of abuse long after it has physically ended. All time happens all the time. As long as you are harboring those emotions, the pain is still happening to you today. As long as you are still feeling that pain, the cycle is still happening, the roots are still deep in your soul and the vines are still affecting your everyday life.
Breaking this cycle is all about forgiveness. Forgiveness of yourself for carrying that guilt and shame and forgiveness of the person who hurt you. You'll never have to say it out loud to them. You don't have to walk up to the mother who hates you and say "I forgive you for hating me Mom. I understand it's because you live a crappy life. I understand it's because you're in pain. I understand it's because you didn't want to be pregnant and you didn't want to get married. I understand it's because XYZ whatever the reasons are." You don't have to walk up to the uncle that abused you and say "I forgive you. I understand you abused me because you were abused by your father or you were abused by your auntie and you thought that's what you're supposed to do. You didn't understand or you felt like you needed the power, whatever the reason is."
You never have to say it to them. Do it all in your mind. You visualize it in your head. You visualize it in your mind’s eye. You find that empathy in your mind and you have a conversation with them in your mind. Why does this work? Why does this work? Because we're all connected, right? We're all connected by that Divine spirit. Inside of every single person, is that Divine energy that's connected to the Mainframe, all connected to the one big ocean of which we’re all drops. (Some people will say you are talking to their higher self. I don’t get hung up on semantics. Whatever works for you is fine with me.) So when you have a conversation with them, it makes a difference. They hear you. Don't think that you're just pretending. Don't think it's your imagination. This is real and when you forgive them in that way, it makes a difference to yourself, and THAT is the whole point, because your forgiveness is about you, not about them!
Simple Spirituality of Self ~ Learn to Love Yourself
Learn to love yourself using radical Self Awareness and embracing empathy, forgiveness and unconditional love for self and others.
Simple Spirituality of Self leads us, as the spiritual observer in our own lives, thru the moments of our past that have created triggers, pain, prickly spots, distrust, self sabotage, etc etc. By integrating the Unconditional Love of Source into our observation, we heal and tear down our walls to receive love freely.
Our society has conditioned us to believe that we are not good enough.
Many of us feel like we are not enough-
Not smart enough-
Not attractive enough-
Not rich enough-
Once we are in the Awakening, we learn that we are loved.
We learn that we are perfectly imperfect.
We learn that each of us carries a piece of that Divine Light is within each of us.
The key to truly connecting with the Divine Energy of Source/God/Creator is to Love and accept ourselves fully and without Conditions.
Simple Spirituality of Self takes you on a journey of Discovery into those emotional issues that can prevent us from loving ourselves Unconditionally.
Embrace the Simple Spirituality of Self and learn to Love yourself.