Please understand, empathy is not condoning.
Empathy is not saying ‘it's okay what they're doing’
Empathy is saying
I understand that you're doing it from pain
I understand that you are wounded
I feel that you are Divine and you are wounded and for that I offer forgiveness.
I believe that you are Divine and that you are wounded and that you are doing this from your own place of hurt.
Forgiveness is not about that person who hurt you.
Forgiveness is about you. So when you are forgiving someone who has done a terrible act,
when you are forgiving the person who has abused you,
when you are forgiving the person who has broken your heart,
when you are forgiving the person who has hurt you beyond all,
when you are forgiving the person who you think has broken your spirit;
It is in the Forgiveness of them and the understanding of what they have been through, that you are healed, because it's not about their healing.
Their healing is a separate Journey from yours.
That forgiveness is not about giving them absolution.
It is about healing you.
They have only broken you, if you don't forgive them.
They have only gotten to you, if you do not forgive them.
You're driving the bus.
It is your Divine Spirit. It is your Divine Journey.
Can I Heal the Person Who Hurt Me?
You can't heal them.
You can't fix them.
Your forgiveness does nothing for them.
Nothing Nothing Nothing …
Your forgiveness does nothing for them, but it does everything for you.
It does everything for you. I promise you this. It may be the most difficult and painful thing that you have to do.
You may have to do it a hundred times, because you keep backsliding.
You may find yourself saying ‘No, f*** that, I'm not forgiving that person, they don't deserve it, they messed up, they hurt me, they broke me, I've had 50 years of that person in my head, hurting me over and over and over again. I have re-live this moment each and every day of my whole life. I'm not forgiving them.’
Until you forgive them, they will hurt you everyday of your life, for your entire life. I promise you that.
The way to forgive them is to understand that what they did to you, they did from their own pain.
It had nothing to do with you.
It had nothing to do with you, in any way shape or form, at all.
It had everything to do with their Journey.
Some people believe that we kind of plot out our lives.
If you believe that, then it's very possible that you chose to be a part of their Journey. Some people find comfort in the belief ‘I chose to be a part of that person's journey.’
Maybe you can too...
This is part 12 of a series of excerpt from Simple Spirituality of Self e-book channeled by me during my Awakening
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